The Wedding Part 2: The Reception

Read Part 1, about the ceremony, here.

When we were finally done taking pictures in the freezing cold, we drove to our reception site, Hidden Hollow Camp. Normally, the building’s used for summer camp, so it was basically just a big, empty, sort-of-rustic looking room with amazing views. Also, I hadn’t even noticed this, but in addition to getting married on 4/20, we got married in a building called Sky High Lodge. Good Lord.

H. and I and our bridal party entered the reception to ELO’s Mr. Blue Sky (because that’s the best song ever) and ate some amazing food provided by Fast Eddie’s. There was broccoli salad! If you don’t like broccoli salad, then I don’t even know what to say to you.

Our decorations were bright and pretty. Lots of flowers, poms, and twinkle lights and lots of coral, pink, orange, and yellow. So basically what you would expect, given the design of this blog.
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There were a lot of wedding traditions we didn’t do, just because we didn’t really care about them (or, in some cases, outright hated them). We didn’t do a bouquet toss because every woman hates that. There’s probably a lady somewhere who thinks it’s really fun, but I’m not friends with her, so I wasn’t going to put all the single women I love through that. Also, no garter toss, because it creeps me out so much. I mean, are you really going to pull that garter off in a over-the-top suggestive manner in front of all your relatives, and then toss it to people as if they want to touch it? I truly don’t understand.

We still had lots of the “regular” wedding stuff, though, like the cake cutting. Our cake, by the way, was AMAZING. Mama W. made and decorated it herself. Seriously, look at those flowers! Clearly she should be doing this for a living, right?
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We did NOT smash the cake in each others’ faces. I told H. that I paid money to get my makeup done, and there was no way in hell I was going to have to wash it off. Priorities, you know?

H’s best man, Bob, and my maid of honor, Cat, both gave amazing speeches that made us get a little bit choked up. H. and I agreed that this was the first wedding we’d been to where both of the speeches were perfect (usually there’s one that’s good and one that’s inappropriate or rambly or weird). Cat’s involved large photos of Zach Galifianakis, Jeff Goldblum, and John Travolta, which were put into use later in the night once the drinking started.
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And then there was dancing. So much dancing.
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My single favorite moment from the wedding (besides getting married, of course) happened during our first group slow dance, to Can’t Help Falling in Love by Elvis. As H. and I slowly spun around, me already a little tipsy, all I could see was a blur of twinkle lights and warm colors and all of our friends dancing. I saw everyone we love, our families and the friends I’ve known my whole life and the friends we’ve just gotten to know recently. I saw all of our friends who’ve gotten married in the past couple of years, our friends who are engaged, our friends who’ve been dating for years, and our friends who’d just brought their new sweethearts to meet the group for the first time, all dancing together. And I saw our friends who were dancing with friends, too, which is a love just as important as the romantic kind. And I even saw my parents, who never dance, on the dance floor. “Everyone’s so happy and in love!” I said to H., and even though it sounds kind of silly now, it felt like the best, warmest feeling when I said it then. That one moment, just watching everyone else in love and dancing and enjoying themselves made every little bit of wedding planning stress worth it, and I was so glad we decided not to elope. I certainly don’t want our wedding to be the best day of my life, because I really don’t want it to all be downhill from here, but it will probably be pretty tough to top the way I felt right at that moment. I’m going to keep a mental snapshot of it forever.

So it was a good night. I have one more cautionary tale to tell you, but it will have to wait for another post. Until then, enjoy a few more pictures that made me laugh or smile.

This photo of Chad (videographer extraordinaire) peering through the cherry blossoms makes me laugh so hard.
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These pictures make me realize how attractive our group of friends is:
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Thanks again to Cat, Jayne, Jessie, Mike, and Sam for taking so many great pictures!

The Wedding, Part 1: The Ceremony

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This week I’m mostly going to be talking about my wedding, so if that’s not something you want to read about, be warned!

Did you know weddings are nervewracking experiences? Of course you knew that. I knew that, too, but what I didn’t realize was how nervewracking. Planning a huge party is always an ordeal, but planning a huge party AND planning a meaningful ceremony that would flow AND preparing to see everyone I loved in one room AND needing to look really, really good AND OH YEAH committing myself to my new husband UNTIL WE DIE?

I was kind of a wreck.

But the good news is, spoiler alert, the ceremony went pretty well. Wanna see some pics? Let’s do it!

To get our hairs did, we went to Studio 19 (which I would HIGHLY recommend if you, for some reason, need a haircut in Mansfield). They gave us bagels and mimosas! What could be better? Not that I could eat much because I was so nervous about falling when I walked down the aisle.
Here’s Mama W. and me after getting our hair and makeup done. We look alike. I know.
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And then it was off to the church, which was absolutely gorgeous. I may have had some problems with its religious message, but we used a Unitarian Universalist reverend to officiate, and she did a fantastic job, so it all worked out.
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This painting was hanging in our getting-ready room, and it made me LOL because it looks so much like my parents’ wedding photos. I mean, their photos didn’t involve Jesus. They just had photos superimposed over one another.
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Even though we said we weren’t getting each other wedding day gifts, H. sent me flowers, which was sweet and MAY have made one of my bridesmaids tear up.
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Also our bouquets showed up, and they were OMG so gorgeous. I still just love looking at pictures of them. Flowers! There’s some Dusty Miller in there, which sounds like the name of a kid from my high school, but is actually just a plant. If you are in the Central Ohio area (again, for SOME reason), I’d recommend our florist, Forget-Me-Not Flower Shop in Lexington. Our arrangements were unique while still being really pretty.
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At this point, I was so nervous that I was afraid I might pass out or puke. It wasn’t that I was nervous about getting married. I was nervous about the actual ceremony, and walking out in front of all those people. We had a relatively small wedding, but it was still a lot of people who could see me trip and fall, or somehow mess up the ceremony. I don’t know what I thought I could mess up in the ceremony, since basically all I had to do was repeat things. I mean, I’d decided not to have a unity candle to reduce the risk of accidentally starting a fire, so I didn’t even have that to worry about. I was starting to wish we’d just eloped.

Just imagine me thinking, “Heeeeeeeelp” in this picture, and you’ll get a good idea of what the afternoon was like for me.
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The girls’ gorgeous dresses turned out exactly the way I wanted them to. Instead of picking out one bridesmaid dress for everyone, I told them all to just buy a coral dress. Since there are so many shades of coral, I counted on them all having one that was slightly different. I hate matching things, ever, so I was really happy when I saw all of their unique but equally pretty dresses. And the bonus is that they ACTUALLY CAN wear these bridesmaids dresses again, because they’re regular dresses! Also, to be honest, I just didn’t want to have to make any other wedding decisions, so it was easier to have the girls pick out their own dresses. Oh yeah, and there’s MY dress!
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I got ready in the fancy-pants bathroom:
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And then everyone helped me into my dress, which still fit perfectly. I didn’t do that thing where you buy a dress slightly smaller than you are so you have to lose weight, because, um, no. Clearly that wasn’t going to work for me because like I’m going to diet. Whatever. Instead I bought one that fit me like a glove, so I was really careful not to alter my eating/exercise habits too much for the past few months. I had to keep that weekly ice cream, you know? For the dress.
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I really, really loved my dress. I wish I could wear it again, but barring some sort of weird wedding recreation attempt, that’s probably not going to happen.

And then 3:30 came around and it was time to walk down the aisle. Standing at the front of the church, hidden from everyone inside, with all of my bridesmaids in front of me ready to walk down the aisle, was simultaneously exciting and horrifying. I mean, it was time! Time for the whole reason 100 people drove or flew into the middle of Ohio. They were all here to see H. and me get married, and it was happening.

So I grabbed Papa W’s arm, asked him if he was getting emotional (“Hmmmm…a little,” he responded, unemotionally as usual), and walked down the aisle to Wachet Auf.

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You know how people always say you don’t notice or remember much of your own ceremony? Well, I don’t know if people always say that, but a lot of people said that to me. And they were right! I pretty much floated down the aisle (didn’t fall!) and everything just happened. I didn’t cry, although I did tear up a lot and I almost laughed once (oops…I guess I’m not solemn enough). We had several readings that made me pretty emotional, including I Carry Your Heart by E.E. Cummings read by our friend/groomsman Dan. I could hear the bridesmaids sniffling behind me at certain times, but I kept it together (somehow, miraculously). And then we walked back up the aisle to Queen’s You’re My Best Friend, which is sort of our song.

And then it was over! In, like, 15 minutes! I was so relieved that we were through the hardest part that I was downright giddy as everyone went through the receiving line. And you know what? The receiving line was one of the most fun parts of the whole day. It was great to be able to hug everyone and say hi.

Then we had to take pictures, and even though it was April and just two days before I’d been comfortably wearing a sundress, it was cold. Like, so cold it had snowed earlier.

Can you tell we’re cold and miserable here?
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It may have been freezing, but we suffered through the cold, even if everyone looked angry, sad, or confused (this is my favorite picture):
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Luckily we had blankets!
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But I think we (hopefully) got some good pictures even if we were freezing.
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And then we went to the reception, which I’ll talk about in tomorrow’s post! I don’t want to overload you guys with too many pictures at one time. Thanks to our friends Cat, Jayne, Jessie, Mike, and Sam for taking so many great pictures of the day. In a couple of weeks I should have our (hired) photographer’s photos, and I’ll probably post a couple. And our friend Chad was our videographer, and soon he should have our highlight video done, which I plan on showing to everyone I meet, probably. So sorry if you’re not super-interested in wedding stuff and you wish I would just talk about, like, Taylor Swift or soup recipes. I do have a soup recipe coming up, but I also have a lot of wedding material that has absolutely nothing to do with soup.

This Week on HelloGiggles

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For the first time since I started writing for HelloGiggles in January of 2012, I took a week (actually, two!) off of my column. It felt weird. I’m not very good at taking time off of anything, really, so it was strange not to submit my weekly post. But now I’m back, and better than ever (debatable)! This week I wrote about Dairy Queen, an insanely funny and smart book that also involves (of course) some romance. Also cows and football and a sassy narrator.

Lady Jam: Volume 3, She and Him

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It’s not like you’re ever going to hear me saying anything negative about Zooey Deschanel. I mean, I write for her website. Duh. Luckily, I genuinely like her even without our connection (in which case “connection” means “she has absolutely no idea who I am, I just write for the website she started”). I think New Girl is hilarious, I respect her hard work, I admire her shiny hair, and I love listening to her music.

Right now, you can listen to She and Him’s Volume 3 on NPR’s First Listen. I love the way they produce their albums and all the instruments they use. Sometimes the album sounds Burt Bacharachian (specifically “Turn to White”), which is my favorite way for music to sound.

Ladyville Book Club: What I Read On the Plane

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Did you know that Hawaii is really far from Ohio? I mean, I knew that, instinctively, but I didn’t understand just how far it was. It’s far. Don’t get me wrong, the time I spent in Kauai was worth every second I spent on a plane, but spending the equivalent of 2 days in an airport or on a plane was a bit rough. Here’s how I passed the time:

1. Trying to find a celebrity at LAX. I was committed to spotting someone famous at LAX. I didn’t tell anyone about this because it’s an embarrassing goal, but whatever. The entire time we were there, I just sat in my chair and people watched. And then I saw Julianne Hough, and I didn’t tell anyone until I got home and confirmed it on the internet. I love Julianne Hough, for the record. I think she’s a weirdly energetic person and I can’t wait to see her in the new Diablo Cody movie.

2. Trying to figure out how American Airlines picks their programming. Why The Big Year? Of all the movies. Oh, and then I watched an episode of Married to Jonas, despite not knowing anything about the Jonases. All I learned was that they seem pleasant and their mom needs to understand that they’re adults now. Seriously, lady has a problem.

3. I read. A lot. After weeks of barely having any reading time, it was downright luxurious to just sit around with a book. Here’s what I read:

Where’d You Go, Bernadette by Maria Semple: I’d heard a lot of good things about Bernadette, and then Lauren let me borrow it, so I dug into it as soon as our plane lifted off in Columbus. As I read, I kept thinking to myself, “This kind of feels like a Jonathan Franzen book.” Then I looked at the cover, and wouldn’t you know, old Johnny Boy himself has a blurb. I can see why he liked it so much…just like one of his books, Bernadette is big, features lots of details about very specific things (except instead of birdwatching, it’s Microsoft and Antarctica), and deals with a dysfunctional family. So basically, if Jonathan Franzen could write about women in a way that didn’t show complete and total disdain for them both physically and mentally (insert tangent here about whether that’s Jonathan Frazen’s POV or just that of his characters…we have neither the time nor the space right now for that particular discussion), then he’d probably write a book like Where’d You Go, Bernadette. The book was funny and quick and the story was told in a unique way, but I’ll admit that I found the characters lacking in warmth a little. Which, conincidentally, is another way Bernadette reminds me of a Jonathan Franzen book.

Sharp Objects by Gillian Flynn: I’d been putting off Sharp Objects because it’s the last Gillian Flynn book I had to read and that’s depressing. As with Gone Girl and Dark Places, Sharp Objects was compelling from the first sentence. Flynn has a way of writing about women who are literally victims without making them objects of pity. These aren’t women who stumble into their situations; they make choices, do terrible things, do heroic things, etc. The less you know about Sharp Objects, the better, but it features some of the weirdest characters I’ve read about in awhile. Also, it’s very short. Highly recommended.

The Secret History by Donna Tartt: Okay, so I’m only about 20% of the way through this one, but I’m already obsessed and resenting the time I have to spend doing anything else. It’s about a poor boy from a small town in California who essentially reinvents himself into a prepster so he can fit in with an elite group of intellectual richies at a New England college. His new friends seem absolutely magical, but then (insert sinister music) something terrible happens.You know what the “something terrible” is from the first sentence, but so far the suspense is coming from the intense foreshadowing. Is anything more exciting than foreshadowing?

So that’s what I read while I was up in the air. What about you guys? What are you reading right now? Let me know in the comments!